[I posted the following on Facebook on 9 June 2015. I had this site back then, but for some reason it never occurred to me to post it here. I was looking through old posts and came across this and figured it’d be a perfect post here. I’ve edited slightly for grammar, but otherwise it’s exactly what I posted on Facebook over three years ago. Yes, I do long Facebook posts. My friends complain about it all the time…]
Well, great! I get home from work and lay down to rest and check my notifications and find I messages from three different people. Two on my friend’s list but never spoken to, and one not even on my friends list and had no idea who she was. All three were angry about a post I did the other day. The one where I said that I’m asexual. That wasn’t really an announcement, I just casually said it publicly.
Anyway, those three girls were upset about it and said things like, “You call yourself a Christian and yet you’ll commit such a disgusting sin!”. Three different wordings of that. Apparently they didn’t realize what asexuality is. I’m finding that to be the case, usually having to explain it. So here is the Wikipedia summary for those who don’t know what it is.
“Asexuality (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. It may be considered the lack of a sexual orientation, or one of the variations thereof, alongside heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality.”
Other definitions describe it as “lack of sex drive”. Like, I don’t think about the world sexually, and it makes for some awkward moments because I’ll say something I intend to sound purely innocent, but everyone around me thinks as perverted.
Like one time this girl asked me if it looked like she was losing weight. I said that she did, because her stomach used to be level with her boobs and now her stomach was several inches back. To me it wasn’t a perverted comment, it was just an honest observation. Sure, I noticed her boobs, but I also noticed her arms and eyes. That’s how I saw it. But all of a sudden everyone in the room was like, “Creepy!” and “Pervert!!”. I was baffled at first.
One of the waitresses at work noticed that I don’t hit on or flirt with her or the other waitresses. She thanked me for “restraining” and then helped me clear a few tubs of dishes. To me that was a weird thought, because I wasn’t restraining, it honestly never occurred to me to do that, and I wouldn’t have even if it had.
Anyway, the three girls who sent angry messages tonight claimed asexuality is a sin. They probably assumed it was homosexuality or something. I’m definitely straight, I like girls, just I’m not interested in sex. I know, I know, that’s baffling to most people. But onto my point. Let’s see if asexuality is a sin.
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
And this is a very important one…
Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Um…I’m not seeing asexuality as being a sin. If anything, Scripture encourages it. I didn’t choose to be asexual, I’ve always been like this. Alot of people ask why I hate sex. I don’t hate it, I’ve never even had it. I just have no interest in it. It’s like sports. I know it exists, but I don’t understand why everyone looses their heads over it, and every attempt by people to explain it just made it more confusing.